Sorry (NOT Sorry) I Missed Your Facebook Birthday

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We’re all adults here aren’t we? Can we agree that, for the most part, that after age 21 our Birthday’s are a day we celebrate quietly with our closest friends and family?

Some of you are glaring at me already…I know who you are, I’ve seen your facebook page, i see your updates and pictures beginning with day one of your birthday MONTH. WTF does that mean?! I mean, I think it’s great that you were born, and you should pour yourself a hefty glass of something alcoholic for making it this far, but I think you love yourself a teensy tinsey bit too much if you celebrate all month! Even a week is too much….You get one day! ONE! You’re mother wasn’t in labor for a month was she? And if we are deciding the length of your celebration based on how long your mom worked to squeeze you out, we should really be celebrating her!

But I digress. If it’s your brithday, Happy freaking Birthday, but don’t expect a facebook post from me!

If we are close enough, or at least related enough, I will gladly contact you via phone -probably just a text cause let’s face it no one likes to talk anymore!- and bestow happy wishes for a wonderful birthday….If we are not that close but I still REALLY like you, I may post on your timeline just to let you know that I’m thinking of you…

Otherwise, I hope you have a great day, but I’m not part of it, and posting on your FB timeline isn’t going to change that!

I get at least 5 notifications a day for birthdays and, to be honest, most the time I don’t even really recognize anyone’s names! I hit DISMISS every single time….HAPPY BIRTHDAY…I don’t really care.

That may seem heartless and mean. But honestly, do you care if one more person posts on your timeline with the EXACT same message as everyone else? Will it make your birthday more special if someone you haven’t spoken to in years writes 13 letters with an exclamation point? Will you feel left out if someone whose posts you scroll by without notice doesn’t post these 13 letters on this particular day?

NO! And you you know why? Because we are freaking adults and this new trend of having everyone you don’t spend time with, talk to, or even think about, post on your FB on your big, fabulous day of birth, is just asinine.

“But, but, but it doesn’t take much time to impart your happy wishes!”

DON’T CARE. It takes SOME time and that’s enough. I either have to drag my butt to the computer and spend five minutes typing a birthday wish to the 8 people born on that day who won’t even notice my lame attempt amongst all the happy thoughts of people they actually care about OR I have to try out the crappy app on my equally crappy phone and spend even more time…

Time is precious my friends. Those five minutes could be the only quiet moments I get in a day…

So, sorry, but not really, that I won’t be acknowledging your birthday on FB…I’m sure you won’t even notice, and that is perfectly normal. For those of you that need 300+ birthday wishes from people you barely recognize and never speak with starting a month before your actual birthday even occurs….YOU HAVE PROBLEMS.

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Tidbits To Remember When My Children Are Grown

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Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs, bad decisions and good, regrets and triumphs.  Looking back at my own childhood, I have so much sympathy for what my parents endured. While they were on a journey that took them down a different path than my own jaunt so far, I see many parallels between our lives, our adventures and misfortunes.

I also see many areas that I want to learn from. Not necessarily mistakes that they made, but small divergences from the path I want to remain on, that I hope not to repeat. These lessons are not just from observing my own family and experiences, but from friends and even strangers I have watched along the way.

Knowing how my mind works (meaning it doesn’t) I think it prudent to write down these lessons, these little tidbits of advice for my future self. Seeing as I can barely find the sunglasses on my head…

Remember Your Younger Self

Remember how hard childhood can be, how difficult it is to try and discover yourself and be your own person. Remember that you feared becoming your mother as a teenager….and it’s ok if your daughter feels the same way. Remember that there were days that the world overwhelmed and terrified you to the point where all you could accomplish was curling in a chair to read a book all day, and your son may feel the same way at times and need a video game break.  Age changes your memories, it makes certain pieces of your past stronger while fading others. For your own children’s sake, endeavor to remember and to find sympathy in those memories.

establish equality when they Marry/Become Parents

Remember to treat your children and their significant others equally on their big days. Whether this be with wedding planning or baby shower gifts, each day should only be marked by the specialness of the occasion not by how one child was treated differently than another. Find a set of specific gifts to bestow on each child for their first baby, set aside a certain amount of time and money for each wedding…deviating from this path can create bitterness and hurt feelings.

Give Information

As your children grow older they will become enmeshed in their own lives; time will fly by and they will suddenly realize that they haven’t seen their grandparents often enough. Work, children, and LIFE simply gets in the way. However, when illness strikes, your children will come to visit, they will make the time. Do not shelter them from the facts, let them know what is going on. Tell them if grandma is having tests done or has planned a surgery, warn them of an impending biopsy or worries about grandpa’s memory…You may think you are protecting them by keeping such information private, but all you are doing is taking away valuable time that your children could be making memories, or saying goodbye. Give the information and let your children process it and take steps as they see fit. Have pride and trust in the in people you raised to be able to handle the news and act accordingly.

Love Your Son and Daughter In Laws Like Your Own

Giving your children away to the care of someone else is going to be hard. It’s going to bring tears of joy and sadness as your children create lives of their own with someone else. You may find this even harder if you aren’t a particularly big fan of the person your child chooses for a mate. However, your child loves that person, your child wants them in their lives forever, and one sure way to create a rift between yourself and the life they create is to openly dislike them.  Hopefully, you will fall easily in love with the person your child has chosen, but if not, you must rise above your distaste and treat them with respect and care. Make them part of your family, as your child has. Don’t show favorites between your sons and daughters in law, even if you feel them in your heart.

let go

A time will come when your children struggle, when they need your help to pick up the pieces of the life they fought so hard to create. Bouey them, be their rock and give them the support and tools they need to begin again. Give them time and love…but do not be a crutch forever. As much as they need you to pick them up, they also need you to let them go, to force them to live their life alone once again, to make their own decisions, mistakes and bask in their personal triumphs. Do not let them forget to live as much as you may love having them around again, you did not raise them to live in your basement…push them to find their own path once more.

Take Your Grandchildren/Visit Often

Once again, your life will be busy and crazy and it will be easy to let your grandkids grow up too fast with not enough of you in their memories.  Take your grandchildren often. Set aside special backyard campouts and days at the park. Take them individually for special alone weekends and big pancake breakfasts where no one tells them they used too much syrup or butter and give them their own can of whipped cream to add as much topping as they would like. Babysit them whenever possible, even if it is inconvenient. Children grow so fast, and you are only getting older, let them help keep you young.

Be Consistent

Hopefully you will have LOTS of grandchildren. Make sure that you treat them each equally. Spend time with them all and be sure not to show favorites.  Make sure presents at Christmas and Birthdays are both different for each child yet comparable. If you have some grandchildren that live farther away, be sure that you send them small gifts of love to let them know you are thinking of them even as you spend one on one time with those that live closer to you. Call them on their Birthdays and holidays that you miss, Send silly cards for the sake of saying “hi” or “thanks” and always include a big hug or kiss. You won’t be around forever, make your love known now.

Don’t Forget, Everyone is Crazy

And so are you, in your own way. Try to be patient with your family when they drive you nuts rather than driving them away. There will be times when you drive everyone around you nuts as well. Your children will make decisions and act in ways that you cannot understand when they are older, try to remember that you raised them to live their own lives and not simply to abide by how you would live their life. Allow them to make their own mistakes and do not offer judgement, be humble and never jealous when they outshine you. Celebrate their every triumph, even if you do not consider it to be one.

My children grow older with every moment. Soon I will look around and find a quiet house, a clean house that I despise. Hopefully, remembering and abiding by these tidbits will keep my house busy with visits from my grown up babies and the children they have made.

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Mother’s Day is For Mom’s: “Pet Mama’s” Move Aside!

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May is just around the corner, and with it comes a day that every mommy looks forward to: Mother’s Day.

Mom’s spend a lot of time doing a lot of thankless tasks throughout the year, we are yelled at by the tiny people we are trying to rear and clean up the same mess 10 times a day simply to do it all again tomorrow.

On Mother’s day, our tiny humans thank us with cards and extra kisses, our spouses shower us in relaxation and breakfast made by anyone but mom.

It’s a wonderful day, just for MOMS. For the women who have created life inside their own bodies or chosen to spend their lives raising children they married into or were fortunate enough to adopt.

We deserve this day.

Which is why, while I search through the card aisle for the perfect card for my own mother, who has put up with 34 years of ME, I get pretty annoyed with the card category entitled “Pet Mom.” Continue reading “Mother’s Day is For Mom’s: “Pet Mama’s” Move Aside!”

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20 Things I Do In A Day To Ruin My Kids’ Lives: Part 1

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While my main goal is to get my children through each day without dying, I apparently am slowing killing their souls with my every action.

The amount of crying, whining, groaning, incessant wailing, and foot stomping indicates that I am constantly working towards their inevitable destruction.

In order to slowly ruin my children’s lives each day, I make them: Continue reading “20 Things I Do In A Day To Ruin My Kids’ Lives: Part 1”

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Workout Wednesday #16: 5 Best Leg Exercises For Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is a wondrous and beautiful thing.

It is also full of unwanted, yet needed, weight gain. Gaining weight is big part of pregnancy that women dread. We all fear ending up with a flabby booty or discovering that we now have thunder thighs and cankles rather calves AND ankles.

While the weight gain is important for your growing baby, it can be rather stressful for the mom to be. One way to combat this anxiety is to work on firming up your body. It isn’t terribly safe to try to burn off fat while building a baby, however, toning and shaping your muscles is a great way to build confidence in yourself and keep your body strong and shapely.

Legs, especially the thighs, get hit particularly hard when women are pregnant as the hormone estrogen causing more weight gain in this area. However, there are 5, easy exercises that you can do to combat this issue. Continue reading “Workout Wednesday #16: 5 Best Leg Exercises For Pregnancy”

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Take the Boredom Out of Summer with Avid4 Adventure Camps!

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Summer is almost here! YIPPEE!

I don’t know about you, but I am looking forward to a break from the school grind as much, if not more than my kids! No more homework, no nagging about projects or paying attention in math….

There is one thing about summer I don’t look forward to, however. Five whiny little voices complaining that they are bored; “There’s nothing to do!” “It’s too hot to play outside” “There’s nothing fun to do!”

Ugh! This drives me nuts. I want my children to play outside, to be adventurous and learn from their environment. I want them to scrape their knees, climb trees, make friends, and BE CHILDREN for Pete’s sake!

The solution? Avid4 Adventure Camps throughout Colorado and California! You can sign up at www.avid4.com or call 800-977-9873 Now! If you need more convincing, read on to see what these amazing camps will do for your children!

This isn’t your average summer camp of crafts and lame field trips. These camps provide exciting experiences that will create lasting memories as well as bonding friendships and tons of stories to tell!  From hiking and biking to rafting and horseback riding, your kids will have the time of their lives!

Check out this amazing video about Avid4 Adventure Camps!

Aside from getting kids off the couch and away from their gaming consoles, these camps are also providing valuable life skills for children.

Trying new things, things that may have seemed a bit scary and out reach before camp, empowers children to continue to take risks in life, to break out of the mold and be whoever THEY want to be.  Trying new things inspires confidence and courage, giving children an inner strength that many seem to lack in today’s world.

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As a parent who was once a child lacking in confidence, the one thing I want to instill in my children is self assurance and pride in their accomplishments. Avid4 Adventures is the place for my child to bolster these skills or to start learning them if they haven’t already!

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With options for 1st-11th graders your child will find their niche and gain confidence in their abilities, physically and emotionally with these camps. Children can also choose to join a camp that explores multiple sports or focuses on one, they can choose to join an overnight camping team or participate with other children who return home each evening to boast of their amazing feats!

With locations for Colorado Day camps in Colorado Springs, Boulder, Golden, Highlands Ranch, Denver, Lafayette, and Castle Rock. Overnight camps in Bailey and Evergreen, and locations in California in Santa Cruz, Mill Valley, Palo Alto, Saratoga, Oakland, Campbell, Moraga and Walnut Creek your child will find the summer adventure of their lives!

Learn more today and sign up at www.avid4.com or call 800-977-9873

With so many adventures I was particularly impressed by the camps’ approach to safety and vigilance over the children they are entrusted with. I take my children’s safety seriously and they do too! Read their approach to safety HERE.

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7 Reasons Nothing Gets Done At My House

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Have you ever tried to finish or even start a much anticipated project and come up against a wall every time to try to start?

I have about 10 million projects around and within my house that I am anxious to complete, or just begin! Yet, there always seems to be something that keeps me from turning my house into the home of my dreams….Let’s start with POOP… Continue reading “7 Reasons Nothing Gets Done At My House”

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April’s Featured Trainer on Workout Wednesday’s!

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Hello again from Workout Wednesday’s!

March has flown by and we have straight into April.  A new month means a new Featured YouTube Trainer! So far this year we have focused on female trainers, Tiffany Rothe and Josephine from Gymra, so today I have decided we need a male presence in our workout lives!

Just a reminder that my Featured Trainers are coaches on YouTube, meaning you don’t have to travel to a gym or worry about any fees to do a workout! All you need is a small amount of space (about 4×6 feet minimum) and, for some routines, a set of dumbbells available at your local superstore like Walmart, Target, etc. Continue reading “April’s Featured Trainer on Workout Wednesday’s!”

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