We all have flaws. And we all find certain characteristics to be weaknesses in other people. Lately, however, there is a trend toward taking these flaws and turning them around so that they indicate a strength. What?! Bad habits are just that, BAD, and we need to stop making excuses for them.
For Example, just yesterday I saw a headline entitled “People Who Are Always Late Are More Successful and Creative.” First off, I’m pretty sure this was written by someone who is never on time as a comeback to all his friends who are sick and tired of waiting on his A$$.
Second, while I know plenty of wonderful people who don’t put the same importance on timeliness that I do, it doesn’t change the fact that they are LATE and tardiness is rude.
Have we forgotten school punishments for constantly requiring a tardy pass? Do jobs now let it slide when an employee is consistently late? NO! If your job requires you to be on time and you constantly slide in past the cut off, you will LOSE YOUR JOB! They don’t care how creative your bad habit supposedly proves you are.
Another great article attempting to excuse bad behavior entered my facebook feed a couple years ago; “Intelligent People Use More Swear Words, According To Study.”
Don’t get me wrong, this is one bad habit I can get behind. I can curse a blue streak better than any sailor and my children know what words NOT to say based on what their mama DOES. Judge away.
I would love to subscribe to this study’s “findings” and claim that I am smarter than the people who look down on me for the foul language they won’t even say in their heads. Even if I am smarter, it doesn’t change the fact that swearing is a BAD HABIT. It’s not classy, it’s not refined, it’s not allowed in most work places or at school. And using curse words doesn’t make you look smarter even if you you’re a genius.
There are also plenty of complete and utter idiots who know every swear word available and whose intelligence is questionable at best.
This next one allows me to live my life as complete and utter lush and feel great about my health decisions! One study says that “Drinking Wine Before Bed Could Help You Lose Weight” come on people, I mean….you know what? F that, USE THIS EXCUSE EVERY DAMN DAY!!!
This is my favorite, “People Without Kids Are Way Happier Than Parents in the U.S.”
Really? How freaking subjective is this!? Let’s not take into account the countless couples who are on the verge of major depression because they can’t have children, or the millions of families who wouldn’t change their circumstances for the world.
You don’t want kids? I don’t care! But don’t you dare say that you are happier than me because your choose not to procreate. That back handed slap at my kids will earn you a punch in the face.
There are a few other articles i have seen lately that take less than ideal characteristics and create wonderful side-effects. For example, “Study: Fat People Are Happier Than Skinny People.” I know plenty of really happy fit people and just as many people who are overweight who are delighted with life. And even if I didn’t know an equal number of miserable skinny and obese people, it wouldn’t change the fact that being overweight is unhealthy.
There is also this post “15 Reasons Why Highly Emotional People Actually Live Better Lives.” Being an emotional person myself, I’m pretty darn sure I don’t live better than my less emotional husband. And even if I did it probably wouldn’t make up for the bouts of random crying, the movies i can’t watch because they ruin my mood for days, the temper tantrums that have been known to rear their ugly head…
“this just in! study shows that people with broken legs walk better than their unbroken friends!”
“New Study indicates that women are 10X smarter during pms”
What a bunch of bull. There is no one thing, especially not a flaw, that will indicate if you are smarter or happier than anyone else. So please, for the love of God, stop making excuses for your bad habits/behavior or lack thereof. Nothing that you are, whether it be smart, creative, or happy, excuses something that you do or don’t do.