Be Less Of Jerk In 2017 With These 8 Resolutions

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2017 is gonna be a great year! Make it even better with these 8 resolutions that will make you happier and less of a jerk….

1.  Stop Tipping Like An A-Hole

Just to be clear, a decent tip to your server or bartender is anywhere between 15 and 20%, 20% being so very much appreciated. Obviously, if your waiter sucks to high heaven we understand docking their tip, but if you are trying to save money by stiffing your hardworking waiter, well, Karma is a Biznatch. Tip well, pay it forward, all that crap.

2. Speak When Spoken To

One of my biggest pet peeves from 2016 is saying, “Pardon me,” when I find myself in someones way at the super market and receiving absolutely no reply. Even if you can’t muster a “No problem” a “F*ck you” would be better than nothing! Give other human beings the respect of acknowledgement for Christ’s sake.

3. Hold The Door

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been walking towards an exit with a baby in one arm, grocery bags in the other and 4 children trailing behind me, and had the person in front of me glance at me and promptly let the door slam in my face. Yes, I am a woman of the world and believe in gender equality, no it won’t hurt my pride to hold the damn door for me!  Chivalry should never die and you should never be in such a hurry that you can’t hold the door for 5 seconds. Jerk.

4. Use The “Thank You” Wave

We all drive like blockheads sometimes, we get in hurry, we’re in crabby moods, whatever. Whether I’m being a jackass and cut someone off or someone is being nice letting me slide in, I always stick my arm out the window and wave my thanks.  We don’t spend enough time trying to show other people our appreciation for their actions, or for their ability to put up with ours. Say thank you; wave.

5. Say “You’re Welcome” 

The ancient art of manners seems to be dying steadily. A few years ago, my step-father expressed his appreciation for my use of the phrase, “you’re welcome” over “no problem,” “don’t worry about it,”  and other colloquialisms that have become the norm in the second millennium. When I think about it, he is right. It’s nice to be acknowledged with a distinguished response. Ever since that day I have striven to reply to “thank you” with “you’re welcome.” It gives more weight to my actions and shows more pride myself. I’m badass and I my words should reflect it, yours should too.

6. Pick Up After Yourself 

EVERYWHERE! I don’t care if there is a janitor down the hall, pick up the gum wrapper that falls out of your pocket when grabbing your keys, pick up your napkin that drops from your lap at the diner, walk over to the trashcan and grab the can that you missed shooting into the basket in the first place. Be responsible for yourself, your stuff, your trash. Don’t toss your drink containers out the car window or leave them on the pavement when they fall from your car like a waterfall. Stop it now, hug a tree and toss your own trash.

7. If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say… 

SHUT UP! Seriously, there is enough cruelty in the world without mean words falling out of your trap.  Go have a nice vent session with your bestie, but otherwise keep your mouth shut unless you’re spreading love rather than hate.

8. Say Hello

Whether you nod your head, smile or form actual words, acknowledging your fellow man is a great way to share the love. I have a fear of meeting other people’s eyes, but when i force myself to do so and offer a smile to a dog walker as I trudge after my kids to school, I feel like a better person. Making connections, even if just for a few seconds, is a crucial part of being human, of being neighborly. Get happy and say hello like a real person, too.

Use these 8 tips and Karma will be less of a biznatch this year, plus you might feel better about yourself and pass on that good feeling to others.


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91 thoughts on “Be Less Of Jerk In 2017 With These 8 Resolutions

  1. Couldn’t agree with this post anymore!i run the risk of sounding like my mother but manners don’t cost a thing!
    I strongly believe that a little kindness can go a long way!

  2. Well said. I hate when people don’t do the thank you wave, especially when you’ve just waited 5 minutes for them to pull out of their driveway and they zoom off like they’re some sort of James Bond character. I also love it when people say Hello but I do need to do this more! Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

  3. politeness really is becoming a lost art isnt it. I will always hold the door, let someone off before me on the bus, say my please and thank yous. Its a dying practice unfortunately #KCACOLS

  4. Haha, I love all these! We don’t go out very often but when we do, I am not a good tipper, I am so critical, as is my partner after having both worked for years in hospitality. However, from what I’ve heard, servers get a fairly good wage here in comparision (it’s still crap, but tips aren’t relied upon, they’re just nice to have) so the standard is 10%.I would struggle paying more than that anywhere I went to…#DreamandSparkle

  5. Well said and It’s got to be good to just be nice decent people. Too many times manners slip and its hard to get back from that if it goes on for too long.
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

  6. On point with this!!! How sad that these are things MOST of us teach our children by the time they’re three.

    I’m sharing it, because people are assholes. Lets try to save them!


  7. Well theserved are pretty easy to live by – things people should do as standard and not have to make an effort to do! Letting the door close on someone is my biggest big bear – it doesn’t take much to wait and extra few seconds to hold that door!! #MarvMondays

  8. Agree with all of these and I have noticed that my kids have also picked up habits, such as saying thank you to bus drivers and putting their hand up to people who stop and let them cross the road without me telling them too because they see me do it. #globalblogging

  9. The not holding the door open & the lack of thank you wave are big pet peeves of mine! I mean they seem like common decency for those living in society! I find more women than men hold the door for me trying to get through with the 3 kiddies! Thanks so much for joining us at #BloggerClubUK

  10. Love love love all of this! People who don’t say thank you or wave when driving – DRIVES ME CRAZY!! And don’t even get me started on people who don’t hold doors open. That’s just plain rude! I really like your thoughts on “You’re welcome” though as I’m often guilty for “No problem at all” or “Any time” etc, but you’re right. You’re welcome has a lovely distinguished feel to it. I shall be making a effort to use it more from now on! Thanks for linking with #DreamTeam x

  11. Oh my goodness the amount of times I have been struggling with a door and a rubble buggy for no one to either help or leave it open,it would take like 15 seconds out of their day. Anyway here here to this list! Thanks for joining us at #familyfun x

  12. Yes to all of these! When did we all become such jerks? I’m working with my kids on each and every one…hopefully they won’t be total jerks when they grow up. (I can’t make any promises right now, unfortunately…)

  13. Totally agree with all but mostly the pick it up one! I hate rubbish and it’s not hard to PICK IT UP! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

  14. This is a great list. It’s bad when people have to be reminded of the most basic manners, but unfortunately, some people do. I worked as a bartender for years – a lot of customers tipped, but to be honest it isn’t really expected in the UK. It is expected that you get a thank you though and some people couldn’t even manage that!
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂

    1. Oh yes, I totally understand that different countries have different tipping policies, and to be honest all my customers visiting from Europe almost always tip great!

  15. Ahhh I love these so much!! I so agree about tipping!! Even if I’m struggling a bit financially, I always tip 20%! If I’m not able to tip properly, well, I just stay home! Simple as that! ^^

  16. I am really bad at saying hi to sales associates who say hi to me in stores! I don’t know why I feel so nervous and I just don’t want to talk to anyone! My boyfriend gives me a hard time about it I know I need to be nicer and more friendly.

  17. These are 8 resolutions that I totally agree with! Bring on 2017 if everyone sticks to them! Alison x #FamilyFun

  18. Love all of these. I always try to smile when I walk past someone or someone makes eye contact. It just feels like the natural thing to do. I don’t often get it returned though! #FamilyFun

  19. GREAT post! So many pet peeves addressed in here. Yes, I’m pushing a stroller / holding a million bags, I will gladly let you open the door for me. And pick up after yourself! I’m constantly reminding my husband about that one.

  20. The tipping one is something that everyone needs to get a smack about this year! I can’t believe how little people tip when they go out or when someone helps them! It’s insane!

    1. A friend of mine ha da table (a mom with 4 kids) with a $150 bill who left her a note that she couldn’t tip because she needed money for Christmas….uh, you could have had an extra $150 if you had made dinner at home and not screwed your server! -Brandi with Big Fit Fam

  21. Yes! Yes to all of these!!! I get so embarrassed when I see someone I am out with giving the waiter a crappy tip. So much so that I will add more on to mine to compensate. Hard working people deserve a decent tip and if you don’t want to do that go to Taco Bell! Happy New Year!!

  22. I find that a little bit of kindness can really go a long way! You get more flies with honey than vinegar!

    1. I love that saying, and it is something I am working on with my kids as well. It’s so easy to angry sometimes, but I will get my point across better if I don’t yell.. -Brandi with Big Fit Fam

  23. We need a little more kindness in this world especially this new year. Last year was filled with so much hate and people throwing insults at each other. I think this year we should focus on being better human beings.

    1. Yes people should really be better driving, it’s so easy to get caught up in getting where you need to go without caring about where other people need to go too! -Brandi with Big Fit Fam

  24. It’s amazing that people have to be told to do these things. I love it. I hope that this can change a jerk’s outlook on life and make my life better in return LOL!

  25. I wish I could show this to my boss who is the biggest dickhead in the world. I would show this post to him and pinned it on his head. Sorry I can’t stand the guy and he really is the biggest piece of crap ever….

  26. These are great – we an all be a little nicer and make someone else’s day. I like saying hello to everyone!

  27. OMG your tipping line. If you can’t afford a decent tip you can’t afford to eat out. I don’t understand why people don’t get that logic!
    Thank you wave is awesome and I use it all the time! I think it’s a small town thing, city’s do not do it at all!
    As for your hello, that one I struggle with so much. Sometimes I literally can not, but I still want to. It’s a hard one.

    1. I have a really hard time with this too…nit sure if it is a fear of rejection or what, but I struggle with it….But i am really trying to be better and to always smile for people! -Brandi with Big Fit Fam

  28. I love this! I am a huge fan of tipping waiters based on the service. The other day I had a $40 bill (super cheap) but the waiter did so well so I didn’t tip 15% because that would be nothing. I gave him more because he deserved it. I know people who give 15% regardless of service.

  29. The thank you wave! Yes! I wish more people would do this…and holding the door. I hate when I am walking into a building and I try to catch up to the open door just to have it slam in my face…awesome.

  30. Hahaha! This post made me choke on my water! Definitely some big pet peeves on this list. Don’t be an a-hole 2017! Some of it is simple manners we learned as kids but are “too busy” to remember.

  31. haha love this! definitely a lot to work on here, although I was always taught to hold a door for others :p

  32. haha – this post is great! Yes, lets not be jerks this year! And that wave. I mean – I can.not.stand when I dont get the wave. Like, um… hello? Anyway – Cheers to a happy 2017, girl!

  33. Heck yeah! Wouldn’t the world be just a little bit of a nicer place if people could just do these simple little things that really don’t take much effort and really aren’t difficult? I’m happy to say I already do the majority of them, but I too will make a more concerted effort to do them all. People are just too disconnected and that really needs to change! Great post!

  34. So many of these, if not all, are my pet peeves also! It drives me crazy when someone lets a door slam in your face. What blows my mind is that I feel like it’s not even that people are trying to be mean they are just so unaware of everything going on around them. Here’s to a year of learning to exist as a whole community again!

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